Thanks for this, Tara. I filed early this year, and the process is not yet completed. It was largely mutual, and we were lucky there were no kids+property to fight over. Nonetheless, divorce sucks — regardless of reason and/or whether one is sure it is the right decision.

What I have learnt along the way is that the negative emotions cannot go away overnight. Talking about the ex is natural, and like other break-ups, it goes away with time. Handling resentment, forgiveness (because even if other party doesn’t deserve it, you deserve peace) and so on.. are the big things to grapple with. It takes time, but with support from family and (and the remaining) friends, healing is possible.